A couple of incidents this week have got me thinking about maturity. Not whether I am or not, just how it comes about. I’ve come to the personal conclusion that maturity isn’t something that just arrives at the front door with a bow wrapped around it. You don’t wake up one morning at a certain age and are suddenly ‘mature’. It’s all about the difference between things at a specific moment in your life that should be said/done, things that shouldn’t be said/done and things that need to be said/done.
I’m not sure if you can know whether you are mature or not, I suppose in our heads we are all ‘grown-ups’. But I am sure that it takes a certain type of life changing expierence to feel a change in yourself. I’m still young, but I think I’ve been fortunate enough to have had and am still having the kind of upbringing that nutures me in way that I feel free. Free to go out and adventure and discover. I’d like to think that although I’m only 21, that I’ve made the choices and had the experiences in my life that mean that I will never take things for granted. I always felt that I was destined to explore things and form my own opinons. I say the word ‘destined’ in the lightest sense of the word because I think it’s a word that’s used too often to make excuses.
I don’t think anyone is completely mature. It’s a ridiculous thought to think that everyone reacts the correct way all the time. Sometimes our emotions take over all common sense in the heat of the moment, and we all say things we regret. I must admit, I don’t regret most of the things I say, just way I express them. I’m opinionated, and sometimes I don’t know when it’s best just the shut the hell up. But I recognise that, and I’m trying to think before I say think that might affect people in a negative way.
Some people I’ve met recently haven’t had the kind of oppertunies I’ve had, and although those people don’t realise it, (and not that I think I’m awesome or anything) I think having little other responsibilties in your life other than going to university/school/whatever, is ridiculous. I mean, one day, these people are going to have to go in to the big wide world, and they are not going to be prepared.
So, for freaks sake. Go out, and find yourself.
